This is something that we’ve been dealing with here at Chez Evil for a little while now. Big Girl is used to the concept of “birthmom” and “birthdad”, as we use those terms when referring to her family of origin. About six months ago, she came up with the following statement:
“I have two mommies.”
“Yes, I guess you do. And you have two daddies. S is your birthdad and Daddy is your everyday dad.”
“I have two mommies and two daddies.”
There the matter lay, until last night. In the meantime, we had bought a book by the brilliant Todd Parr. Mr. Parr is, among other things, the author of the only baby book I’ve seen that’s both widely available and even bothers to mention adoption at all. Naturally, his works have become important here.
The book we read, The Family Book, has a page in it that reads, “Some families have two mommies or two daddies.” When we got to that page last night, Big Girl piped up with an interesting observation.
“That’s just like you and M, and Daddy and S.”
“Well, not just like, luv, but I guess you could think of it that way.”
Interestingly, when we get to the page that talks about adoptive families (“Some families adopt children”), we’ve had a huge, deafening silence. I’m not sure if I should be worried about that or not.