OAB Roundtable is an interesting one:
Write about a blogger (or bloggers) who influenced your real-life open adoption, and how. It might be someone who became an offline friend who supports and challenges you. Or a writer who makes you uncomfortable, but gets you thinking. Maybe a blogger who doesn’t even know you are reading. Tell us about them and how they’ve affected you.
There are a lot of bloggers who have influenced how I think about adoption in general, and open adoption in particular. Dawn was one of the first bloggers I ever read, and she’s been a huge influence on our adoption. Even though I don’t write about adoption so much anymore, just about all the adoption bloggers I read – Margie, Jenna, and Shannon, among others, influence how I think about our adoption. Usually I wind up making comparisons, which isn’t always a healthy thing. But anyway.
I think the one person who has influenced how our open adoption has gone is Barb. I’m not even sure how I started reading her blog. I think it might have been through Dawn, but I’m not certain. I do know that over the years we’ve become friends. We’re on different sides of the adoption “triad” (I originally typed that “tirade” for some possibly Freudian reason), but we get along pretty well.
Over the course of our open adoption, we’ve had more contact with some members of our daughter’s other family than others.
Knowing Barb and reading her blog has helped me realize that even though we don’t have too many people walking through our metaphorical open door, it’s important to keep that door open.